About to send it? Pause for a minute.
Three questions and one slow breath. You don't type your message here, so nothing leaves this page.
First: how are you feeling right now?
Is it true as you see it, and is it only what you know?
If they had written this to you, how would you want it to land?
Does it need to go out in the next hour?
Breathe in as the circle grows. Breathe out as it shrinks.
Get ready
Here's what your answers suggest.
The three questions are a pause, not a verdict. You know the people and the situation better than a page does.
Why a pause helps
Most messages that cause trouble are written in the first ten minutes of a strong feeling. The aim here is not to talk you out of anything. It is to give you a gap between what you feel and what you send, so the words you choose are the ones you'd still stand by tomorrow.
A useful habit: check whether you are reacting to what happened or to what you think it means. Those are different, and only the first is usually in the screenshot.
Learn the whole approach, one minute a day
Lampstep: Bible for Real Life trains this same pause on everyday moments, one a day:
- Today's Fork: a real-life choice with three or four honest options
- The reveal: the verse, a plain-English why, and the move that fits best
- SOS: a verse in 90 seconds for when you're anxious or angry, always free
Free to download for iPhone. Details from the app's App Store description, checked 11 November 2026. This page is a separate web tool, not a feature of the app.
Questions
What does this tool check?
Three plain questions: whether the message is true as you see it, whether it would be fair to the other person if the roles were reversed, and whether it needs to be sent right now. It does not judge the message or the person.
Is my message saved or sent?
No. You type nothing into this page. You only tick answers and choose a feeling word. Nothing is sent to a server or stored.
Does this replace talking to someone?
No. It is a short pause to help you choose your words. For a hard conversation with someone you live or work with, a trusted friend, pastor or counsellor can help you think it through.